Don’t fight or nag in front of your kids

I have ever asked myself whether this is possible, but the fact is that I have also discovered through personal experience that it is absolutely possible. How could parents afford not to nag or fight in front of their kids? It seems possible if you consider the fact that people’s emotions and self-esteem are very different. In any case, I have had a short experience with one of our clients and I will like to share the story with you.

Snowyte: You nag and sometimes fight in front of you kids right?

Client: No No No! We never do that. If we have issues we just hang on until we enter our room because we live together in the same room. Once we are in, we will look the door and start unleashing it on each other. Once we are done, we kiss and make out. It sounds fake but this is the fact. We have developed this over the years. It is not something that we just built within few months or years.

Well that sorts it all out. Fighting in front of the kids or even nagging in their face is not matured. It is disrespectful and irresponsible. The kids will feel humiliated and might even freak out in some cases. It doesn’t serve as the right model of learning to these kids and it will also influence their respect towards you guys negatively. You know the code and desire are kids that will be relevant to the society and bringing joy to you through their responsible activities. Well, what you teach them by fighting and nagging in their face is that “irresponsibility” is “responsible”, “fighting” is “peace” and they will eventually grow up living their lives that way.

So please my fellow parents and wards. Don’t fight or nag in front of the kids. Let’s teach them a better way to live life. 

Love and respect in the family

You must be very much familiar with the old sayings that “charity begins at home” right? Am glad for whoever that coined such because it makes things much easier. Charity should always begin at home and the focus of such charity should be defined towards ensuring the growth of love and respect.

There is something that we must understand. Respect as we stressed earlier in the “importanceof greeting” is not something that is one dimensional / directional. It should come from both ends. The ends of the poor and the rich, the ends of the old and the young; which means that the children should always respect their parents as is also expected of the parents to do the same for their children.

The way you respect your family in public will go a long way in building up the public image of your family and ensuring that people outside of your family also accord you with such respects as well. Basically, this is based on the understanding that what you do outside is what people view you as.

Another measure that can be applied in this case will come in the form of “what you give is what you receive.” Respect has also been described as “reciprocal” – which means that you must respect others if you wish to be respected. If that is the case, then why are some people in the family not respecting others? Why does the dad keep felling line an unapproachable God? Why is the mom not respecting dad?

You see, it’s these little things that begin to tear families apart. The lack of respect will increase the potential for power struggle between the mother and the father, as well as other members of the family. The end product can sometimes be violent, in some cases death and in normal cases divorce. Later on in this blog, we will address the issues that result to the lack of respect in the family, but for this section, the focus will be basically on the importance of respect.

On that note, you should understand as well as know that the basic benefit or importance of respect is that: it increases love! Yeah! Would you love or cherish some that respects you so much? Oh, now you see the angel we coming from right? This is why respect is very much important as it would increase the chances of people around you to love and cherish you.

If that is the case, do you see love growing in the family as a result of increase in respect and value for and/or between members of the family? So that is why you as parents must learn to teach your kids how to respect others, and also respect your kids in return. It is when they see you showing so much respect for them and your partner that they will increase and actually believe strongly in showing respect for you.

When such aspects of life are very much integrated into you as a person, then there is no doubting that you will carry this value outside of the family. The benefits of such are same as is in the value. It will create more love for you and value for your family. People will be respecting your family because you guys seem to be very diligent and respectful. You will find it easier to scale through walls in times of difficulties are more people will be willing to help you due to the high level of respect they have for your family.

So parents, we all have a big role to play here, and it is that we should teach our kids to respect others as well as respect our kids in return. Never wash your dirty linings outside! Let the value of the family be something that borders you so much and try at all times to create a great image for your family outside. See it as branding. The better you package yourself, the higher your chances of being viewed as valuable by people outside your homes. Kids, we also have our own role and duty, as well as obligations to respect our parents and people around us. This is because it will increase their love and positive attitude towards us. Always known that the measure you give will definitely be the measure you will receive. Carry respect very much high and make sure that you are not found wanting in that aspect of life. Respect is our social obligation.