If I had a wife like you

This is the story of one man’s wish after we interacted with another man’s wife for few minutes. The story goes this way:

Mr. Collins went to the market to get some groceries and then meet Sara while making his purchases. He saw Sara’s little kid in the trawler and asked said “wow, your baby boy is so quite.” Comprehended by the compliment, Sara said thanks and the conversation started there. Sara asked about Collins, and he replied to be a working class man with 2 kids and a wife. When he asked about Sara, she replied to be a working class lady too with two kids. She works in her bakery store and has the sole responsibility of catering for all the family needs. She trains her kids in school, provides all their needs and also guides them towards becoming good people in the future. She is so fixed up that the only thing bothering her is how to make her kids and family the best.  The main reason for this is because her husband is an irresponsible man that sleeps around with other women and never comes home. Even when he is back, he focuses on abusing her. So the kids are now so attached to their mother that they don’t even remember having a dad. Going through her story, Collins said to the woman “I wish you are my wife.” This is because her wife is exactly like Sara’s husband.

So who are you, Sara or Collins; or maybe one of their irresponsible partners? You see we are not here to judge anybody, but what you should never allow to happen is your partner wishing another person was you. It is gonna put your relationship or marriage in serious doubt of lasting long. Try to create the right environment whereby love is all that matters to you guys and not personal interests. Responsibility is the virtue of any relationship. 

Don’t fight or nag in front of your kids

I have ever asked myself whether this is possible, but the fact is that I have also discovered through personal experience that it is absolutely possible. How could parents afford not to nag or fight in front of their kids? It seems possible if you consider the fact that people’s emotions and self-esteem are very different. In any case, I have had a short experience with one of our clients and I will like to share the story with you.

Snowyte: You nag and sometimes fight in front of you kids right?

Client: No No No! We never do that. If we have issues we just hang on until we enter our room because we live together in the same room. Once we are in, we will look the door and start unleashing it on each other. Once we are done, we kiss and make out. It sounds fake but this is the fact. We have developed this over the years. It is not something that we just built within few months or years.

Well that sorts it all out. Fighting in front of the kids or even nagging in their face is not matured. It is disrespectful and irresponsible. The kids will feel humiliated and might even freak out in some cases. It doesn’t serve as the right model of learning to these kids and it will also influence their respect towards you guys negatively. You know the code and desire are kids that will be relevant to the society and bringing joy to you through their responsible activities. Well, what you teach them by fighting and nagging in their face is that “irresponsibility” is “responsible”, “fighting” is “peace” and they will eventually grow up living their lives that way.

So please my fellow parents and wards. Don’t fight or nag in front of the kids. Let’s teach them a better way to live life. 

Always acknowledge the presence of your partner 

Most at time, issue can arise in a relationship and it can tend to reverse what is normal into more of adopting an abnormal behaviour. When things are very much ok, you call her honey, my love and so on, but when things get little bad you don’t even care if he is around or not. This is quite unfair and disrespectful. Let me tell you something about great people, they never run away from problems and they don’t allow their good times to be influenced by bad experiences. So why would you allow the “honey and my love names” to be dropped just because of a little issue?

Well the main idea here is about acknowledging the presence of your partner. Whenever your partner is around, always make sure that you acknowledge his or her presence by sending normal greetings (e.g. good morning my love), or extending it to hugs and kisses. When you have your partner in the mist of your friends or people who don’t know him or her, never leave your partner ignored, instead introduce both your partner and the strangers to each other.

You know why? It’s gonna increase love and trust. Since you are not hiding people around him or her, then there will be no doubting you because you are already open and free within yourself and for your partner as well. So learn to show each other respect by acknowledging the presence of each other – whether you are home alone or in public places. Besides two has decided to become one right?

You guys gotta have some nice name to call each other

The marriage was between Collins and Sara. It was held at St Jude’s Catholic Parish in Happiness State of the Federal Republic of Home. The purpose of the wedding was for them to achieve their dreams of building a happy home. Hahaha! Now you got the scope right?

Well, even before the wedding, these couple have come to love each other very much and cherish each other to the extent that you hardly see them apart. This love was sealed by their self-acclaimed name “Sweet Love” which they call each other. Collins doesn't call Sara but her name, but instead calls her “Sweet Love” whenever he needs her attention and Sara replies with another heart-warming gesture can be can be “Ye dear,” “Ye Sweetheart” and so on. The same is applicable when Sara needs the attention of Collins.

So what am I tryna say here? Once you guys are together, there is a need to adopt a name that always recalls the main purpose why you people actually decided to come together. It should be able to tell your partner what he or she means to you and communicate the main purpose of your marriage. In the case of Sara above, you can see that Sweet love basically means that they are born to be together and their love is very sweet to them – so nothing can break it up. Additionally, it lets them understand that their main purpose of being together is to enjoy a sweet love live together.

So you see sweet names are very significant in marriages and relations. For instance, my dad and mom call each other “mine”. This is very direct in meaning and also powerful. It is clear statement that “you are mine and nobody else, and likewise I am yours too.” Think of it, it will help your relationship greatly. 

Listen to what the kids are saying

You know sometimes we the adults think that we know it all. Definitely there is no doubting the fact that we have gained numerous life experiences that makes us better positioned in decision making for things that affects our various homes. Yes! When you are the one bringing out the money, you always make sure that things are done in the right way in order for the money to be used justifiably. This can most times involve ignoring the advice and comments of others.

But let me tell you something, kids have a very smart and wonderful brain that makes them easy to understand things happening in our environment and memorize issue as the occur with respect to avoiding mistakes and enhancing success factors. All little mistakes you made in the past are likely to be memorized by the kids that saw u do such mistake and when you are in such situation again you can see that they are always tempted to convince you not to do it.

Imagine a case between a boy and his mother. One Sunday morning, the mother had some rice boiling on the gas while she was watching movie. Well the unfortunate happened, and the food got burnt. The whole house was smoked up and it nearly led to a fire disaster before the kid starting screaming “Mommy! Come come come!!!” Since that that day, he is always conscious of the gas cooker and makes sure that he kids reminding his parents and elder sister about the consequences of not being around the gas cooker while cooking. You can often hear him say things like “Hey, where are you going? That gas will burn the house oh. Heeh! Go and off it now” and so on.

You see the kids can be making sense most of the times and they cannot just be ignored because you think you are older than them or smarter than them. Always take extra time to read meaning into what they say and ensure that dangers are evaded wherever possible by limiting the danger factors through close adherence to what the kids are saying.

They deserve to be listened to. So pay attention plz.

Who is the head of the family?

This is very much an interesting question for me because I come from a home where my mother happens to be by far richer than my father. So when I got this question from HAPPINESS IN HOME, I couldn't resist answering it.

This is a very sensitive question and everybody might have their own view on that, but I will base my view on what is generally acceptable in both religious preaching and cultural value. Nowadays, just like is also obtainable in the past, it is very easy to see a wife that is richer or well positioned than the husband. Let’s image the former Prime Minister of Australia - Julia Gillard, or the former Vice Chancellor of Germany - Angela Merkel, to mention but few. So you see, women can be well positioned than men in some families, but does that make them the head?

We start with the religious preaching. What is obtainable in most religions is that “a virtuous wife is she who listens to her husband, values her home, respects her husband, and treats her husband like a God he is to her.” I guess that sums it up. The husband is the head, and he is the God to the wife.

Now let’s take a cultural view. The head of the family is the husband in all cultures. We don’t mean to exercise some level of masculinity of inferiority to the feminine gender, but this is actually what is obtainable in the real world. Right from the beginning of humanity, man has always had the upper hand in terms of heading the family and that will not change now.

On that ground, we conclude by stating that the husband has always been and will always continue to be the head of the family. As such, the wife (irrespective of whether you are better doing than your husband) should always accord respect to the husband as the head of the family and never make decisions that will influence the family without calling his attention. 

Family: What it actually means

Ever wondered what family actually is all about? Well here is our little tiki-taka on what family actually means. It is more than just a synonym. Read meaning into it and understand it just like it is without twisting anything out of it.

Friendliness – there is no better friend than your family. Think of going out and not having any hope, then looking back to see any of your parents or siblings saying “Hey! We are always here for you.” The family is peace, love and unity. Family is sacrifice. It is only the family that is a true friend in deed. It doesn't seek much from you when you have none and doesn't demand you to present anything when you have all. The desire of your parents is for your own good. The family is a friend that you can really trust, and don’t be fooled around by the mare stories that are going around. There is no better friend than your family member(s)

All-is-one – Yeah! No matter whether you are the step-child or step-mother; maybe your guys are just complete biologically; or you can tell me the story of how you were adopted. Family is a place where everybody becomes one and equal. Are you having issues and have nobody to run to? Think or running to daddy or Mom. How about that you’re cute sister or the brother that has always been there for you even though he doesn't show that much from his actions. Feel at peace because in the family all are one.

Merciful – earlier on we discussed about “spirituality” in the family. You see, the family will never take you to jail or enact harsh laws on you for just little disobedience. The family is lovely and they still want you no matter how bad you are. Maybe this is a good reason to quite your bad habits like smoking, drinking, robbery, prostitution and go back to seek peace with that home which calls you theirs. For your family so much loves you that they keep their arms wide, that you might come back in whenever you feel like – irrespective of your bad behaviors

Irrevocable – Ah! Now you see why we said that “walking away from your family is not the best solution.” I know it, you think he loves you and you are ready to quite your family because of him? Hey lil girl! Look me deep into the eye. In your entire life, you can only have one and only one family. Maybe your case is different from the little girl ha? Well it doesn't matter what your case is, what matters is that you should understand that the family is irrevocable and you should never think of abandoning your family no matter the circumstances. This is because what seems wrong today can be made right tomorrow by your actions of not running away but instead seating back and seeking for solutions.

Lovely – wow, this reminds me of my mom. Family is so lovely. Seeing my little sister play video games, how I played a lot with my dad during my childhood days, my mom cooking and serving for all, my kid brothers working out the solutions to their assignments. Oh, there is never a place lovelier than the home. The home is beautiful and sweet. It is peaceful and nice. It is the abode that makes me feel like there is no much difference between heaven and earth. Your family is lovely and your family loves you my dear. Believe me as you ready this.

Yours – finally, you should know that your family is yours. If you have anything that will better the family in anyway, don’t hesitate to contribute. Is your partner little down financially and you have the cash to spun the family ahead? Please do so. Your sibling needs blood or kidney (maybe other organs) transplant and you can help? Don’t even think twice about that. This is because your family is yours and it is your responsibility to make sure that you help those who are yours in any way that you can. 

Why walking out is out on your family is not the solution

Many at time, people are have adopted the idea of walking out form their homes as the ultimate solution to the problems to they face. Let me tell you something, while having issues with your partner of children is not encouraged, it is something that is inevitable. Sometimes war is the best way to seek for peace. For everything that happens in our lives, what I believe is that there is a reason for such. This is the same as issues that occur in our homes. The family as far as I am concerned will not be so much interesting if we don’t have issues with the people residing in it. For every problem, there is always a solution but you have to understand that what we are saying is a “solution” and not a “walking out.”

Well let’s begin with presenting an understanding of what we mean by walking out from the home and the factors that influences such decisions. When we say you are walking out from your home, what we mean is that when you have problem in your home, you prefer to move out and probably stay outside without coming back to solve the problem; or you prefer to share the issue with other people instead of your family.

People do this for a number of reasons. Maybe they don’t wanna be tempted into hitting the nagging wife, or maybe they don’t have solutions, or maybe they feel at peace with people outside their home. That is why we posted earlier that people should maintain high level of spirituality intheir homes.

You should know that even if you run away from your family problems, you will still come back to meet these problems. So, you should not run away. Instead you should seat back and relax, then call the people involved together and try to find a solution for the problem. As a parent, you will be laying the right foundation for your kids and the family at large by serving as a role model to your family, and also ending issues instantly without having to let them spread uncontrollably.

You see, the decision is not to run away but to face your problems and solve it no matter what it takes. So, don’t run away from your family, instead stay back and find the cause of any problem that the family is facing as well as the solution to that problem.  

The home deserves to be spiritual: maintain good family principles

You know what? We are gonna threat this topic this way.

1.   First – we understand that not everybody reading this topic believes in God and even those that believe have different religions and ways of worship. Second – as such, the focus will be on pure spirituality and not religion based viewed in order to ensure that we don’t contradict with the preaching of people in any way.

Since that is the case, let’s begin with actually presenting a definition of what we mean by spirituality in this case. We define spirituality as the “ability to maintain inner peace with ourselves and the people around us.” Mind you that we are not speaking of peace, unity on the external view, we are speaking of something that comes from deep down within our souls.

Spirituality in the family is viewed as the ability of people in the family to love each other more than they do for outsiders, learn to forgive family members even before they are offended, and make sure that their actions are geared towards maintaining a lovely home.

Let me give you a clue. It is very much common in the cases we have handled for parents to love other people’s kids more than their own. Even they tend to abuse these kids in front of their colleagues. This is not because they hate their own kids, but because they seem to have lesser inner understanding of the need to value spirituality.

We are definitely not saying that you should not love your neighbor – because the preaching of many religions is that you should love your neighbor as yourself. Instead, we are of the view that you should maintain a high level of spirituality within yourself, call to mind the fact that your family is the main reason why you are here. Those kids where given to you so that you can fill at peace with yourself, and without your parents you would not have been here today.

Therefore, is there any other person or people to show much love than your family? You be agree with is that the answer is NO, why then do you maintain grudges against your family members; why don’t you respect your parents; why do you love other people’s family more than yours; why is having your kids around something that makes you feel unhappy; why insult your kids in front of their peers?

Now you see there is a need for change to be made and this change should come in the form of increase level of spirituality. Understanding that charity begins at home will make you understand that there is no need to keep malice with your family members. If you experience problems, just call the person involved and settle it out together. If God is your creator and you believe in that, you can also move the spirituality higher to the religious view. Live a life that is worthy of emulation for your kids and a life that your parents will be happy to see. Family is love, family is peace, family is harmony, family is unity, family is virtue, family understands and family is all about building high level of spirituality.

As you are reading this post now, think of a way that you might have offended anybody in your family in the past of which you feel that the person still holds his or her anger for you. Now, make the decision to seek for forgiveness. Are you the offended, forgive from your heart and maintain peace with everybody in your family.

I might never tell you this again, but I need to remind you that:

1.      Charity begins at home

2.      There is no better place than home

3.      Seek your peace first with people around you in the family and anything you have problems outside you will find helpers around J

Wishing you and your family peace, love and unity. 

Expect kids to fight: Make sure they never fight

There are certain negative things that you need to know about having a home. Whether you have a child, children, no child or not even married yet, fighting is inevitable amongst kids. Before we go into that, let’s start with reasons why kids will fight.

Figure 1: The fight development cycle amongst kids:

From the figure above, it can be seen that kids can fight for both positive and negative reasons and the explanations of reasons why they fight are:

Power struggle – just like adults, kids also want to showcase that they are stronger and better than their counterparts, and this will normally results in exchange of physical blows.

Low EI – EI basically means emotional intelligence, and low EI means that they don’t have a clear understanding of the emotions of others; in that case they can’t really tell when their actions is making others angry, which can result in the angered person pushing forward for a fight.

Family training – some kids are natural bullies. They have been purely trained from homes and tend to exercise high level of physical power against their fellow kids. These kinds of kids normally come from poor background such as the GANGSTA Hood where violence is very come and they have learned to live that kind of life. As such, they can easily engage in fighting because they tend to view it as the ultimate solution to any problem.

Defense – from the three descriptions presented above, the focus has been on the offender but, the focus in terms of defense is on the offended. When kids are being beaten up, they can easily revert to fighting as a form of defense against their offenders.

On that account, you should expect the kids to fight but you should not let them fight. As such, what are the necessary measure that should be taken when you see kids nearing “fighting point” or “already fighting”. The measures are discussed below.

Separation – the first and foremost thing you should do is get them separated. Put them in different positions where they will not be able to hit each other quickly.

Calm them down – once separated, calm the kids down and let the fighting spirit move out of their soul. This can be done by simply pleading with them or wowing them with gifts if you care to do so.

Advise the kids – now they are all relaxed out right. Ok, begin the final step of advising them on the negative aspect of fighting and why they should never fight again. You can highlight issues such as letting them know that they can injure their selves, it is against the law, it is not good of a child, and it is against God’s teachings.

Finally, get the kids to shake each other or hug each other. Once they are back to their normal selves, initiate a new trend of friendship in the kids by getting them to hug each other or shake hands. Now you see that you should expect kids to fight right? But you should make sure they never fight.

Happy parenting!!!

Family is priority: Spend time together 

There are numerous reported cases of family negligence, and it can also be believed that some of the people reading this post have had such experience. This is very much common in movies and dramas that have been acted across the globe. Definitely it is understandable for you to say that you are very much engaged in business and work related activities which you need to maintain the family wellbeing. It is very important that you do such. However, let me ask you a question? Which is more important? The business or the family? The actual answer is both and some people might even go the long-way of saying business, but the most realistic answer should be the family. Yes! It is your responsibility as parents to work hard and earn money that you will use to sustain the family, but do you think all the family needs is you?

Why is Eminem, the award winning and inspirational superstar so obsessed with his mother? This is because he was not raised in the right way he would have loved to be raised. The father was not around and the mother as he claimed was into drugs and spent much of her time for her self-interest instead of the family. Still on that note, we can all believe that Eminem did the same mistake if you look at the lyrics of his “mocking bird” song. This is because be made known in an apology to his daughter that he “is sorry for not being around coz daddy was on the move and mommy was on the new!” While Eminem was all about money at that time (working hard to give his daughters the life that he never hard), the family needed him and this causes issues with his wife – which led to the eventful divorce.

Now you see that spending time with the family is important right? You should always make the family your priority. Don’t neglect your family or you could come back finding another person playing your supposed role in the family. Who knows, it could be your best friend and your wife might be having his babies alongside your own baby. Family time is cool for unity. You get to ask the kids questions about school and issues they face in life, then give them the necessary advice to combat such issues in their lives. You can also think of a timeouts like eating together outside, shopping, recreation and even holidays. Something that you all can come together and do like one family.

Let me make this known to you. Never expect your kids or partners to be so close to you and disclose the issues they face with you when you are actually distancing yourself from your family. In the process of such events, you should also understand that they might eventually find another person to fill up their lonely times with. The outcome will never be as you would desire. There are many cases of such.

The importance of spending time as a family cannot be overemphasized. It will provide the kids with necessary advice on issues faced; the partner with the much needed warmth; increase unity, love and respect in the family; increase harmony and understand; build mutual relationship and partnership with each other; and most of all, it will help build a happy home.

So family time should be priority. Try to come back on time for the family dinner. If your work is too cumbersome, then take your family out or spend time together during the weekend. Make rules that will regulate the time kids are allowed to come back into the family and set strict standards for adherence. It’s gonna help you in protecting their interest as well.

There is no better place than home, so there should be no better place to spend your time than in your home. The impact you make today will be of high influence in the future and you can hope to build up something meaningful from such. Therefore, bring out your time for you family and build unity through such experiences with other members of the family. 

Keep da home clean!

Ah! Slowly we are moving towards the objective of this BlogSpot.

Hello students: the chapter of discussion today is “keep the home clean.” Hmmm! You see, I am very much aware of the fact that some of you are professors, lecturers and not students J, so don’t mind the little sense of humor.

In any case, let’s move directly into the topic of discussion for today, and it is all about cleanliness in our homes. Yes! The home needs to be cleaned. Remember that cleanliness is next to godliness. We are not here to debate on whether you believe in God or not, instead we are focused on understanding why we should always clean our homes clean.

There is a common saying that where are what we eat, what we dress, where we live and even how we live. Yeah! If you keep your home clean then there is no doubting the fact that you are a very neat person. How do you do that then? Let’s start with the kids. The kids are very playful as is of their nature – and you should expect them to easily get dirty and mess the whole house. However, you should also teach them nit to be dirty if you don’t want them to mess the whole house.

Simple manners like “Hey, pick that up and put it inside the bin” or maybe a more psychological aspect of the game like “I don’t mean to be harsh sweety, but I expected you too much clean and matured enough not to liter the whole place with these dirt.”  You see, politeness is all around the examples we are presenting here because as you seek to maintain a clean home, you should not forget that the main purpose is to maintain “Happiness in Home.”

So as we are saying, ensure that the house is not unkempt and that the children are thought how to be responsible and neat. The benefits are very much uncountable, and we can start with the health side in terms of reduce spread of diseases, reduced possibility of inconveniences that will arise from odor, and reduced possibility of harboring rodents, pests and other disease caring vectors. Looking at the spiritual aspect of it, it is widely known that cleanliness is next to Godliness. How about the social influence? Well you don’t even need to ask many questions on that as people will generally think of you when they enter your house and see it very clean. Ah! This family is so wonderful. They are clean people and nice to be around with. Your visitors will feel at ease and peace with your family.

So how can we keep the home clean? Well is easy. Just get some dustbins and place then around all corners of the house. Make sure to put some plastic shades (bags or covers) in those dustbins as it would allow for easy clearing when filled up. Have a roster of who and whom to clean the house and make sure that they adhere strictly with that roster. Set standards and role as a parent by being clean yourself.

The end point is that the house should be kept clean at all times as it would bring along health, spiritual and social benefits. You guys won’t be smelling in public places too L hahaha. Just some final token.

Hope your house will be clean when we come visiting. 

Love and respect in the family

You must be very much familiar with the old sayings that “charity begins at home” right? Am glad for whoever that coined such because it makes things much easier. Charity should always begin at home and the focus of such charity should be defined towards ensuring the growth of love and respect.

There is something that we must understand. Respect as we stressed earlier in the “importanceof greeting” is not something that is one dimensional / directional. It should come from both ends. The ends of the poor and the rich, the ends of the old and the young; which means that the children should always respect their parents as is also expected of the parents to do the same for their children.

The way you respect your family in public will go a long way in building up the public image of your family and ensuring that people outside of your family also accord you with such respects as well. Basically, this is based on the understanding that what you do outside is what people view you as.

Another measure that can be applied in this case will come in the form of “what you give is what you receive.” Respect has also been described as “reciprocal” – which means that you must respect others if you wish to be respected. If that is the case, then why are some people in the family not respecting others? Why does the dad keep felling line an unapproachable God? Why is the mom not respecting dad?

You see, it’s these little things that begin to tear families apart. The lack of respect will increase the potential for power struggle between the mother and the father, as well as other members of the family. The end product can sometimes be violent, in some cases death and in normal cases divorce. Later on in this blog, we will address the issues that result to the lack of respect in the family, but for this section, the focus will be basically on the importance of respect.

On that note, you should understand as well as know that the basic benefit or importance of respect is that: it increases love! Yeah! Would you love or cherish some that respects you so much? Oh, now you see the angel we coming from right? This is why respect is very much important as it would increase the chances of people around you to love and cherish you.

If that is the case, do you see love growing in the family as a result of increase in respect and value for and/or between members of the family? So that is why you as parents must learn to teach your kids how to respect others, and also respect your kids in return. It is when they see you showing so much respect for them and your partner that they will increase and actually believe strongly in showing respect for you.

When such aspects of life are very much integrated into you as a person, then there is no doubting that you will carry this value outside of the family. The benefits of such are same as is in the value. It will create more love for you and value for your family. People will be respecting your family because you guys seem to be very diligent and respectful. You will find it easier to scale through walls in times of difficulties are more people will be willing to help you due to the high level of respect they have for your family.

So parents, we all have a big role to play here, and it is that we should teach our kids to respect others as well as respect our kids in return. Never wash your dirty linings outside! Let the value of the family be something that borders you so much and try at all times to create a great image for your family outside. See it as branding. The better you package yourself, the higher your chances of being viewed as valuable by people outside your homes. Kids, we also have our own role and duty, as well as obligations to respect our parents and people around us. This is because it will increase their love and positive attitude towards us. Always known that the measure you give will definitely be the measure you will receive. Carry respect very much high and make sure that you are not found wanting in that aspect of life. Respect is our social obligation. 

Courtesy is polite

In the setting of everyday life, there are times in which we experience difficulties with achieving our desires. However, it is not uncommon for people around us (be it member of the families or outsiders) to come to our aid and support us with the needed help in order for us to escape from such difficulties.

Courtesy basically entails appreciating peoples’ favour around us by letting them know that their favour have been very helpful and we are happy to have obtained such favor. It gives the giver the heart to give more. Courtesy build the right relationship in terms of understanding between the giver and the receiver.

It is not yours! You needed it badly! So why can’t you say a simple “thank you’?

Parents should learn to inculcate the spirit of courtesy in their wards and also amongst themselves and in the process learn to appreciate whatever favor that might have been given to them. You don’t need to always measure the favor – as no matter the amount of favor, it might be coming from the deepest heart of the giver, which is why you should focus on appreciating their attitude towards you.

Gratitude is very important. It can be used as a direct measure of whether such help will be given to you in the future. There is also a common saying that to “whom much is given, much is expected.” You see it now? It is expected of you to appreciate whatever measure you get from people irrespective of the amount of such measure.

There is a new understanding I want you to try. Try appreciating everything in your life irrespective of good or bad. See it as something that is meant to be and not just something that happened. Appreciating everything in your life might end up to be a move towards increase emotional intelligence (the understanding of this around you and ensuring that your life doesn't influence people negatively), which will end up building your psychological well being and make you a better person in life.

On the account of the above discussions, a high sense of courtesy if it exists in the family will be the right antidote for increased understanding, more love and sharing, and increased respect for people in the family (irrespective of their age). Thus, teach your wards to always appreciate the favor people give to them. 

Greeting is important

Before we go into any advanced discussion, it is important to start with the basics, and was well all know, “greeting” is one of such. In all cultures across the globe, greeting is very much welcomed and necessary.

Well in this case, greeting will be defined as: acknowledging the presence of people around you. Note what it’s all about “people around you (everybody)” and not “elderly people around you (some people).”  

In most cases, the idea of greeting as is presented in most of the cultures is that greeting should first be initiated by the younger person in which the younger person is expected to acknowledge the presence of people around them. The most common cases are “good morning”, “good afternoon” and “good evening.”

However, you need to understand that we are all about maintaining happiness in homes. So if happiness is to exist, what will the greeting pattern be like? It would be based on acknowledging the presence of everybody irrespective of age. The child should be able to say “Good morning dad” and the father should be able to say “Hi son!”

There should be no boundary in homes and greeting can be initiated by anybody with the right mood and attitude. The main idea should be to create a spirit of greeting in homes and the kids should also be taught how to acknowledge the presence of people around them when they are not in their respective homes.

As time goes on, you will notice that this habit will become inbuilt and you begin to acknowledge the presence of people around you no matter where you are. The same is also applicable to your kids and everybody in the homes. What is the benefit? The benefit is that you will become more social and cordial towards people and people will be more likely to help you.

Imagine how you fell about being greeted. There is no doubting the fact that it puts you in the right mood to listen to such people and you would offer the necessary help is needed. This is basically why greeting is important and it would be inculcated in the family. RESPECT is the key here and as such greeting should be very much welcomed in homes.